Emeraldtiger
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Hello Everyone struggling with new life in Turkey
Hello all, I'm sorry if this isn't the right place to post this, I feel at a bit of a loss and maybe looking for some words of advice or maybe some reassurance.
I am 26 years old and moved to Bursa Turkey from Scotland in August. I got married to my wonderful husband after 3 years in a long distance relationship and we are finally together.
I suppose the biggest thing that is currently effecting my mental state is living surrounded by concrete apartments and not much greenery to be seen. I have always lived in the country back in the UK my lifestyle was very much walking the dogs through fields and woodland and I also had horses which I have given up to be here. I know it may seem silly, but I really miss the picturesque countryside.
I am also struggling with living in an apartment all be it a lovely one, I miss having a garden.
I miss having a car, we just can't justify the cost of running a car here in Turkey compared to the cost of public transport. But I do find when you have something you take it for granted.
I feel very lonely I don't have any family or friends here and with the current situation I feel like I will never meet anyone to call a friend.
On top of all my challenges to adapt to my new life, I found out I am now pregnant (yes we were using protection). I was not planning at all to have children this early, but it is what it is.
My experience at the government hospital hasn't been a good one I feel I was treated the same way some people back in the UK treat foreigners. My husband wasn't allowed in the room with the doctor and during ultrasound. They themselves didn't know English and so were asking me questions which I could not understand and became so disrespectful. I have never experienced such treatment in the UK and even the dentist I went to here in turkey had more compassion. So it really shocked me.
I suppose I am having doubts about my current living situation I'm worried about having a baby here and whether or not my husband will be able to be with me in the delivery room. I suspect he won't but I really can't go through this alone.
I'm sorry again if this isn't the best place for my rant I just don't know where to go and I find little advice online.
Thank you for reading and I wish you all best of health.
I am 26 years old and moved to Bursa Turkey from Scotland in August. I got married to my wonderful husband after 3 years in a long distance relationship and we are finally together.
I suppose the biggest thing that is currently effecting my mental state is living surrounded by concrete apartments and not much greenery to be seen. I have always lived in the country back in the UK my lifestyle was very much walking the dogs through fields and woodland and I also had horses which I have given up to be here. I know it may seem silly, but I really miss the picturesque countryside.
I am also struggling with living in an apartment all be it a lovely one, I miss having a garden.
I miss having a car, we just can't justify the cost of running a car here in Turkey compared to the cost of public transport. But I do find when you have something you take it for granted.
I feel very lonely I don't have any family or friends here and with the current situation I feel like I will never meet anyone to call a friend.
On top of all my challenges to adapt to my new life, I found out I am now pregnant (yes we were using protection). I was not planning at all to have children this early, but it is what it is.
My experience at the government hospital hasn't been a good one I feel I was treated the same way some people back in the UK treat foreigners. My husband wasn't allowed in the room with the doctor and during ultrasound. They themselves didn't know English and so were asking me questions which I could not understand and became so disrespectful. I have never experienced such treatment in the UK and even the dentist I went to here in turkey had more compassion. So it really shocked me.
I suppose I am having doubts about my current living situation I'm worried about having a baby here and whether or not my husband will be able to be with me in the delivery room. I suspect he won't but I really can't go through this alone.
I'm sorry again if this isn't the best place for my rant I just don't know where to go and I find little advice online.
Thank you for reading and I wish you all best of health.